"I actually attack the concept of happiness. I don’t mind people being happy - but the idea that everything we do is part of the pursuit of happiness seems to me a really dangerous idea and has led to a contemporary disease in Western society, which is fear of sadness. Wholeness is what we ought to be striving for and part of that is sadness, disappointment, frustration, failure; all of those things which make us who we are. Happiness and victory and fulfillment are nice little things that also happen to us, but they don’t teach us much. Everyone says we grow through pain and then as soon as they experience pain they say “Quick! Move on! Cheer up!” I’d like just for a year to have a moratorium on the word “happiness” and to replace it with the word “wholeness”. Ask yourself “is this contributing to my wholeness?” and if you’re having a bad day, it is."
This is a food and lifestyle story we did for Kinfolk Magazinewith our friends who live in Point Reyes and who own the fermented food company Wild West Ferments. They really do cook meals over the hearth fireplace in the living room of their cabin. It was a wonderful day photographing them mushroom foraging and cooking a beautiful meal.
Photos by Trinette Reed + Chris Gramly
Shoshone Falls (Idaho)
Grand Canyon (AZ)
"Perhaps travel cannot prevent bigotry, but by demonstrating that all peoples cry, laugh, eat, worry, and die, it can introduce the idea that if we try and understand each other, we may even become friends."
Road trip around the Mediterranean Sea
Eastern Europe and Scandinavia
West Highland Way
Road trip across america
South East Asia
Australia/ New Zealand
"Our life is frittered away by detail. Simplify. Simplify."
"Get excited about the little things. About wearing a new outfit for the first time. About Sunday brunches with your best friends. About the new cute guy in your class. About finding an extra dollar in your pocket. About anything that even remotely makes you happy because as you grow up, passions fade and enthusiasm gets mistaken for foolishness. So don’t let the grey world stop you from shining."
I don’t want sex, I want the things that lead up to it. The slow kissing then the passionate kissing, then the pulling closer, the neck kisses, the grabbing, biting, heavy breathing, grinding, the pauses while you catch your breath, feeling each other. Oh my.